The Delete Button – Feedback Loop
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So, the last two episodes I spent showing how the DELETE button can be used to defeat insults you cannot stop people from hurling, and how it can stop you from slinging the hurl right back, which promotes not only peace between individuals, but will make your own world more peaceful.
Did you know that there's a third way that the DELETE Button can help you?
Hmmm. Let's review, first, how to use this imaginary DELETE Button.
Would you take a deep breath and as you exhale, do 2 things? As you exhale, let your eyes close, and imagine that red DELETE Button sitting on one of your index fingers. Now, use your thumb to press the button in your imagination, letting your thumb press against your index finger. As you do this, visualize the a delete button like you have seen me flash on the screen in these videos about it, and in your mind's ear, hear that buzzer sound and the word DELETE. Then imagine that the file of that insult or your criticism of someone else you were about to voice has been erased.
Then replace the file you deleted with something positive.
Sounds like a lot to do, but once you press your fingers together a few times in that quick relaxed state, what we hypnotists call an anchor, will be formed. This little trick will soon become habit.
So, here's the third way that you can use the DELETE button.
“I always overeat. Why can't I drop off to sleep? I never get a break. Who cares about me? I'm so insignificant. What am I going to do? Everyone's smarter than me.”....
All of this stuff is what we call self-talk. Negative self-talk. We all do it...and to make it even more damaging to ourselves, we put a lot of emotion into it, delivering it to ourselves with a lot of choice words that used to be unspeakable. And the more we put ourselves down, the more we put ourselves down.
So whenever you find yourself putting yourself down, treat it just like when someone else puts you down. DELETE, and replace with a positive statement about yourself.
These three things are something that we call Assertiveness Training. Every morning while you're still groggy from sleep and every night when you're about to drift off, say these three things out loud:
1 – I will never again let anyone put me down, 2 – I will never again put myself down, and 3 – I will never again put anyone else down...in no particular order. Follow that by saying, “Day by day, in every way, I'm getting better and better.” several times in an audible voice.
Would you do this every day for a few weeks, and see if you don't feel better and better, little by little? Would you let me know how it is working for you in the comments below or dropping me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org?
Your subconscious mind will know exactly what it needs to do in what order to make you better and better, and all you have to do, as the Captain, is give the order, until the drills on your ship become the general orders for your life.